Unexpected Weight

I quit drinking almost a year ago. I realized I’d been trying to find some peace and happiness at the bottom of my wine glass and it just wasn’t working. I was unhappy. I looked forward too much to the moment when I could acceptably pour myself a glass. Things just weren’t working. I quit […]

Misconceptions About Japan

It never ceases to amaze me how many misconceptions there are about Japan and the Japanese people. There is barely a day that goes by that I don’t get some weird question, read a gross generalization, or have something bonkers pop up on my Facebook feed. With how obsessed the world seems with Japan, the […]

Spouse Visa – An Unequal System?

It’s that time again. Time for me to renew my spouse visa. For me this is an annual event, despite being married to my Japanese husband for nearly 9 years and having 2 children. Every single time I have been given a 1 year visa with no explanation why. For those not familiar with the […]

Top Questions I Get from my Neighbors

Living near a small suburb has its benefits. I don’t have to deal with huge crowds and an endless push of cars, but it does mean I stand out more. There are other foreigners here, but most are other Asians who don’t come to attention simply because they have light hair and blue eyes. Since […]

Life as the Gaijin

Being a gaijin, or foreigner, in Japan has been written about A LOT. Mostly from the white male perspective, but that’s understandable considering that in the English speaking community, males outnumber females by at least 4:1 (according to a 2005 study done by the Japanese immigration bureau which is not very up to date, but […]

Mommy Guilt

I love writing, but it brings me guilt. So much guilt. I think that’s part of the whole mom thing though. It seems impossible to be a mom without feeling guilty about something. I have a messy house that I always feel guilty about, I feel like I’m the messiest mom in the world. I […]